How to Tell if Someone is Lying (Tips from a Savvy Trial Lawyer)

Every single day we struggle with trying to figure out who’s telling the truth. Social media posts, the evening news, and our daily business conversations all often revolve around each of us searching for accuracy and the true facts and story.

The problem we all face is this: How do we know if people are telling us the truth?

A decision based upon someone’s lie can harm relationships, put you out of business, and destroy your reputation in the community. When it comes to politics, a lie can turn love into hate and peace into war.

As a trial lawyer, I’m always challenged to try and figure out if my jurors, witnesses, and opposing counsel are being honest. In high-profile cases, it’s tough to determine if reporters are truthful with why they want to do an interview or have me on a panel.

It’s never easy but, over the past three decades of using the approaches I’ve outlined below, I’ve gotten pretty good at figuring our who is telling me the truth and who is lying. After you apply and practice what I share in this post, I think you’ll also have a much better handle on who’s a straight shooter and who’s trying to pull the wool over your eyes.

Some of the approaches I share with you in this post are based upon things I’ve learned from personal experience while fighting my client’s legal battles in court. Others are concepts and approaches I’ve learned from judges and from studying decades of research by talented psychologist, psychiatrist and other professionals. While you’ll never be 100% sure if the person you’re talking to or watching on television or a livestream is telling you the truth, the use of these techniques should help you get better at making this determination.

Three-Step Approach (When You Can Plan Ahead)

The easiest way for me to tell if someone is exaggerating a fact, misleading me, or straight out lying, is when I’m able to use what I call the “Three-Step” approach. Before talking with someone, I determine specific facts that are true and then when we meet, I naturally and comfortably incorporate questions about those established facts into the conversation.

I then listen to and watch how the other person responds to my questions and how he acts during the conversation. It’s a easy to follow process and you can do the same thing.

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Legal Issues When Recording Conversations, Live Videos and Podcasts

Can you legally monitor (listen in) or record someone else during a telephone call, podcast or live video show? I share my thoughts, and tips, in the above 2 minute video.

My advice for my fellow livestreamers is to always get the express permission of your guest(s) to record and use the podcast or live video conversation. Sure, you can always argue that it was implied that you had permission to record the private or public interview or conversation but written permission (text or email confirmation) is the best way to document consent, especially in a two-party state.

After watching this video, see if you know the answer to the following question: “You are in California and you interview a guest located in New York on your podcast or live video show. Do the laws of a one-party or two-party state apply?”

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Related Issues Involving Audio

Fake News, Adobe VoCo and Authenticating Evidence

When It Comes To Social Media, Just Do It!

When I was six years old, my parents put a tennis racket in my hand and told me to hit the ball over the net. For the next 12 months, that’s what I did.

It wasn’t until a year later that I had my first private lesson. Eight years later I was a nationally ranked high school freshman tennis player holding down the #1 spot on the varsity team.

Also during my freshman year in high school, a bunch of us showed up to play football. None of us had played before, but we put on the pads, hit people, and caught balls. By the time our senior season rolled around, we had a very good team.

I’ve had the same experience with motocross, hang gliding, scuba diving, windsurfing and even trying cases in court. The first step was always a bit scary but I just “did it,” and everything worked out. Over time and with the help of others, I always seemed to figure things out.

Without Taking Action, Nothing Happens

The same approach applies to social media and live video. Nothing happens until you jump on a platform and start engaging.

Get one of the books I mention below, or go to Google or Youtube and spend a few minutes studying up on the use and dynamics of a specific platform. If you’re a professional in my LegalMinds mastermind, go to our private resource page, select the platform you’re interested in, and follow the instructions. Regardless of how you go about it, the important thing is to take action and just do it.

Once you start using a social media or live video platform, you’ll learn more and figure things out as you go. As time goes by, you’ll get better at sharing your message and engaging with others.

The mistakes you make will be learning lessons. Just like I use to hit the ball into the net, run the wrong pass pattern, or crash my motocross bike in the whoops at high speed (hey, it’s hard), it’s doing the tasks, over and over, that makes us better.

Each week, add a new social media or live video platform to your efforts. Be real, consistent, and add value to the lives of your audience. Do this on a daily basis and by this time next year, you’ll be glad you decided to “just do it” and get on social media and live video.

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Resources:

“The New Rules of Marketing & PR” by David Meerman Scott

“Known” by Mark Schaefer

“Shareology: How Sharing Powers the Human Economy” by Bryan Kramer

“Leverage Livestreaming to Build Your Brand: Start, Master, and Monetize Live Video” by Jennifer Quinn

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Mitch Jackson enjoys combining law, social media, and technology to disrupt, hack, and improve his clients’ companies, causes, and professional relationships. Click here to get Mitch to speak at your event in 2018.

10 Ways to Start Your Next Livestream (watch my 3 minute video)

How To Immediately Grab The Attention of Your Audience!

I use these 10 approaches when giving a keynote from the stage, picking a jury, and giving an opening statement or closing argument. They also work very well when livestreaming.

Take a look and let me know what you think. Also, please share if you found value in this short video.

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Just Out! The New 6th Edition of “The New Rules of Marketing and PR” by David Meerman Scott

I’m honored to be profiled in Chapter 5 of David Meerman Scott’s 6th edition of his best-selling book, “The New Rules of Marketing and PR.” The chapter is titled, “Blogs: Tapping Millions of Evangelists To Tell Your Story” and frankly, it shares some of my favorite approaches to building your brand and creating global top-of-mind awareness and influence. I know you’re going to like all of the tips, information and stories found in David’s updated book!

To put the value of David’s book into context, it’s important to know that the first edition of “The New Rules of Marketing & PR” was published in 2007 and was six months on the BusinessWeek bestseller list. Since then the book has sold more than 375,000 copies in English in the various editions and is now available in 29 languages from Albanian to Vietnamese. Hundreds of colleges and universities around the world use it as a text in class and many companies require all marketing and PR staff to read a copy.

The newly updated 6th edition is out in the USA and will soon reach other countries around the world. It includes a dozen fresh new examples of success. Click here for more information and to place your order!


Update: I’ll be sharing the stage with David in Las Vegas later this month at the Tony Robbins Business Mastery Event. Look for our updates and livestreams during the upcoming event and click here or on the image below to watch a short live video of David sharing my newsjacking efforts at the recent Florida event 😉

Talking Points From My “Legal” Presentation at Social Media Day San Diego 2017

We had over 400 people from around the world attend Social Media Day San Diego. The venue was on the sand at the beautiful Bahia Resort on Mission Bay. I shared a few pictures and videos in an album on Facebook and also on Twitter and Instagram using #SMDaySD

My afternoon presentation revolved around sharing 30 years of legal tips to help keep my social media friends safe when doing business on the digital platforms. Looking back, it’s clear my message was to be careful about what you say and do on social media. In today’s world, there are legal consequences.

I started things off by sharing the below Fyre Festival video from Mashable

Next, I showed everyone what a $100M lawsuit looks like and we talked about business, legal and social media promotion options to avoid being named a defendant in a similar claim.

I then discussed 7 specific tips to help everyone in the audience safely do business on the social media platforms. If you missed the event, no worries. Many of the approaches I mentioned can be found in a combination of my earlier blog posts, “Nine Legal and Entrepreneurial Tips To Help You Start and Build Your Online Business”,  “So You Want To Start a Business?” and “Influencer Marketing- Tips for Influencers, Social Media Agencies, Brands and Consumers.”

All of my fellow speakers shared major value during the conference. If you were not able to make it this year, you can stay connected and possibly eventually get access to some or all of the content by connecting with SocialMediaDaySanDiego, Casual Fridays or Tyler Anderson.

I believe social media is all about relationships. It was great seeing old friends and also beginning many new friendships. I’m looking forward to staying in touch with everyone and continuing the social media dance for many years to come!

Thanks everyone for a fantastic experience. Make today your masterpiece!